Think about your dad and the impact he had on you. I remember my father fondly, but he wasn’t perfect by any means.
We all want our children to look up to us, to see us as someone they can emulate. Are you their superhero? Consider what your behaviours and habits are teaching them and how they encourage them to learn, grow and be their own person.
Are they seeing you:
Pursuing passions
Showing interest in life
Being present
Prioritising exercise and health
Taking time for yourself
Nurturing friendships
Always learning
Going on adventures
Engaging in their interests
Demonstrating a strong work ethic
Giving them the freedom to fail, learn and succeed
Sharing laughter?
Or are they witnessing:
A sedentary lifestyle
Health issues due to neglect
Dependence on medications
Lifestyle-related diseases
Low mood and disinterest
Harmful habits like smoking and excessive drinking
Low self-esteem and body confidence
Sabotaging your health goals
Frustration, anger, and depression
Absence due to long work hours
Self-disgust
Addiction to unhealthy foods
Social isolation
If you see yourself in the second list, what will it take to make a change?
Consider what you stand to lose:
Health
Respect
Desire
Excitement
Future
Career
Family
Marriage
Friendships
Money
If you want to be that good role model to your children, you must stop normalising weakness and embrace excellence (in whatever form that takes for you to feel proud of setting a positive example).
Taking care of yourself will mean more time with loved ones, good energy and health. Make this decision for your children and grandchildren, if not for you! It’s never too late.
Ask yourself, what message are you giving by your behaviours?
ARE YOU SETTING A POSITIVE EXAMPLE?